What i want to say: that people should not let anyone tell them how to live there life or do things solely to pleas others.
My argument: doing this is extreamly bad for your helth and can cause sever depression. Trying to be the perfect person will only result in unhapyness. You can only find happyness when you accsep youself for who you are and love yourself.
straw man: i will atack people who wright self help books, and the media for implanting fulse idols in peoples minds.
Ipsy dixit: not accnolage that such books are there to sugest help to thoses who need it.
Slipery slope: today there are books sugesting life styles tomrrow it will be enforced. Freedom will be lost
(i like cake so ima gonna eat it)
Make it personal: its every were, all around us, even in this school you see those “motivational” posters all around the place saying things like…..
“Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken”- oscar wilde.
In the words of famouse play wright…
the only way to be happy is to be yourself.
There is no doubt that this time, right now, is the best time to be alive. I mean sure we have problems, but at least we don’t have to worry about being hung for witchcraft, dying spontaneously from some now preventable disease, or gathering enough food to last the winter! Every second the human race becomes a little bit more accepting, a little bit more tolerant and a little bit more kind. People who would have once been prosecuted for the differences are now welcomed with open arms. What a privilege it is to live in this time, a time of immense change when we can witness evolution every day.
But with this change there comes challenges that previous generations have not had to face. The number of people who suffer from anxiety, low self-esteem, stress and depression are higher than they have ever been before. The reason for this catastrophe is all around us. It’s on our phones, it’s on the TV it’s in every shop and on every product we buy. It’s even in this school. it’s the technological and social advances that have led us to become so completely reliant on instant gratification that our ability to trust our own intuition has been lost. the origin of this misfortune is the disease of conformity.
the expectation to be perfect, to live a life with all the latest things but also to be a minimalist, to never say something wrong but to also speak your mind, to be environmentally friendly, and beautiful, and successful, and rich and happy as well. isn’t it enough to just be happy? I am a non conformist. I try to be myself as much as possible, I try to resist the fever, but it’s hard. I understand it’s hard for you too. when you try to be different, when you go against the social norms, you can’t help but feeling like you are being judged. no wonder people get depressed! the poison of conformity has infected our minds, it has burrowed so deep into the very essence of our sole that it’s near impossible to be an individual without fear of being looked down upon!
there is so much pressure on people to be perfect or rather to portray the image of perfection that the things that really matter are often swept aside. it’s an epidemic and every one is helping the spread of this plague, adding to its momentum. in almost every classroom in this school there is at least one poster that says something like “your not living if you aren’t taking risks!” or “if it doesn’t challenge you it doesn’t change you”. who’s to say that being challenged and takeing risks will make you happy. not everyone enjoys that kind of thing but that does not mean that we should inadequate because of this. you go into any book store and you are bombarded with books with titles that say “how to have confidence and power in dealing with people” “getting the love you want” “live healthier” “be a better parent” and so many more.
toxic books whose sole purpose is to tell you what to do. books written by people who have the audacity to tell you how to live your life. what makes them qualified to instruct people in matters of life? they don’t know you! all they are people who are taking advantage of you. misleading you into thinking that they know how you should live better than you do. these self-help books are completely barbaric. they bestow in you false expectations of yourself. they make people feel like to be happy they must be perfect in every way. who’s to say that we aren’t perfect the way we are?
the festering tumor that is the media, constantly instills in us the feeling that we have to be successful to be happy but that’s not true. recently two very successful people committed suicide. one was famous handbag designer kate spade and the other was Anthony Bourdain, celebrity chef. it was the pressure of successes and the expectations of others that caused these two extraordinary people to end their lives. the tragedy of their deaths proves to us that success is not a guarantee of happiness. we should stop putting pressure on people to be successful. it only leads to pain. why does success need to be measured in how many followers you have on instagram anyway. it should be measured in love and happiness.
I mean today there are books telling you how to live your life what’s to stop tomorrow from being a world devoid of choice and individuality? we cannot keep living like this, in a constant state of suspense, afraid to be ourselves but hesitant to comply completely with the expectations. we need to get back in touch with ourselves and stop relying on the internet and books and other people to tell us who we are. don’t become a victim of the virus, do what comes naturaly, that’s the only way to cure the sickness of societys relentless pressure to conform. but don’t listen to me, I’m just one person. i have no right to tell you how to be. the only one who can make your choices is you. you are the master of your destiny. but, what i will say, as my personal opinion, is this:
Eat when your hungry, sleep when your tired, love who you want to love, wear what you want to wear, be who you want to be, not who you feel others want you to be. embrace yourself for who you are, that is the only way to be truly happy. and in the words of famous playwright oscar wilde, “be yourself. everyone else is already taken”.